Good Vibes blog asks some nice philosophical questions about what sex is. This comes up a lot in an educational setting about sexuality because a lot of people think of “safe sex” as preventing pregnancy. This narrow definition overlooks a lot of missed sexual encounters that could 1) transmit disease and 2) be called sex because it’s an act of physical intimacy. A lot of young people (and less bold older people) ask how lesbians have sex – an indicator that penis in vagina is probably what they consider “real sex”. Sadly, this results in many overlooked opportunities and expressions – mostly for the clitoris in my opinion.
The blog post, if you’re too lazy to read, links to a Kinsey survey about what you considering as having “had sex”. You should take it, who doesn’t love a little research?
kinsey! funny cause I thought I thought that penetration had to be involved in “sex” but once I started taking the survey I realized that what I REALLY felt is that yeah, most everything is sex. Except kissing and “nipple fondling”, those fell of the “sex” radar part of the survey for me.