Is it like a “thing” that girls don’t know how to give boys handjobs? This has come up twice recently and I’ve never really thought about it or heard that before.
I was thinking about it and I imagine that a mediocre blow job is still pretty good because a guy can’t do it himself but a mediocre hand job is kind of like “meh, I could handle this on my own.”
I know we have mostly girl readership but I’m curious if this is just one of those things.
my two cents is that just like every girl does her deed different, every guy does it different as well. you need to apply the same “teaching” methods! also you dont ever want to be told “are you trying to start a fire!?”
I should clarify that this wasn’t something someone said to me – i just heard in a comedy act and then somewhere else…like an online poll or something. It started a snowball of self-doubt.
Of course there’s always a learning curve and since I’m in a relationship I’ve had the luxury of time to perfect the art for my one guy. But are these skills non-transferable? And before this, I didn’t really take the time to learn what other guys liked…was that just effort wasted?
And blow jobs take practice to be GOOD, but this seems to be a “thing” that girls just CAN’T give good hand jobs.
if your good at it (as with BJs) then they will be transferrable on most occassions. i have a few hand jobs in my time and i have to say, 90% arent as good as i can do myself…but then i think a crap hand job off a girl is better than a good one off me because it involves a girl. hand jobs on my own are just a means to an end, where as it more exciting with a girl, even if its not that good.
theres no such thing as a bad blow job (unless its hurts…but then you might be into that).
what i think is a better question is, as a girl, would you appreciate being told your not that good and given directions as to what that particular guy like (even if its only a one night stand)
thanks for the response…90%! shit.
i’ve been in a relationship for awhile but i still check in from time to time to make sure my technique is working or if i try something new. i ask for feedback and i don’t mind getting feedback.
one night stands are different though. i have personally endured much more mediocrity figuring it would be over soon enough. i sort of expect the same from a guy.
but if i could do it over again (given these stats) i would try to be more cordial and ask.
one night stands are different for girls than they are for guys from what i can gather. most of the time for the guy its just a shag, emptying himself. hes not that bothered if shes crap in the sack as long as he empties himself and can go home. girls are harder to satisfy/fulfill so probably take less from the experience unless the guy is particularly skilled….as you say wish it was over. guys are generally ok with mediocrity on a one night stand as its just that, one night.
these would probabl;y be better for both if both people were brave enough to say i dont like that, do this, what do you like?
but then from experience, one night stands are results of too much alcohol and you get tired half way through and want to sleep…..or sober up and want to cust your dick off to get out of there.